Wednesday, December 31, 2008

By Next Week

Hi All,

I just got great news. I am either going to send off my completed dossier tomorrow or Tuesday. I can't wait to become "officially waiting". It has been so difficult to watch my tiny little agency grow and see my spot being taken over.

Unfortunately, there haven't seemed to be any little girl referrals on the group for like three weeks. I was hoping we would have had one a week. I'm not really sure why things have come to a standstill.

I have decided to go with the Lexus SUV. It was voted best overall value for a crossover vehicle. I haven't had a new car in like 10 years, so this is a very nice treat for myself.

Hoping to send out a dossier complete email within the next week!!!!

Thursday, December 18, 2008

Home Study Update

It has finally made its way to Department of Children and Family Services in Springfield!!! So happy about that little development. I just want to be officially waiting. I can't stand the paper chase. I'm too impatient for this sort of thing.

On another note, I wish I knew for sure what was going on with singles in ET. My agency tells me not to worry but it's hard not to. I just can't understand how a rule applies to one agency but not another.

Oh well, I have decided to continue down this path until someone tells me no directly. Lets keep our fingers crossed for dossier submission during the first week of January 09!!

I also am going to get a new car. I tell myself it is for baby, but I'm just lying. I have have the same car for the last 8 years and it's time for a change. I'm going to be an ugly american and get an SUV. But I don't drive to work, so don't think I have no concern for our planet. I put about 5000 miles a year on a car, so my carbon output won't be that bad with an SUV. I'm trying to decide between the lexus or bmw. BMW has an awesome service plan, so I'm leaning that way as of now.

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Well Meaning AAWomen and Hair


I am pissed. I was bored today and looking at every blog I could find. I should have been working but I was blog watching instead. So, to what pissed me off. WELL MEANING BLACK WOMEN!!!! I have come to hate that term. I find it used often on blogs where there is a white family who has adopted a black child and it's usually in reference to hair discussions.

At first, I didn't think it was that big of a deal. I'm not one to allow ppl in my business so I could understand the sentiment. But then it was repeated on so many blogs that it started to sound to me more like the women were saying "this black B had the nerve to walk up to me and talk to me about my kid's hair". Some of these ppl have no problem with white folks coming up to them and asking them about their adoption but hair discussions are oh so offensive!!!!

Then I started to calm down and think maybe they don't know. They have read hair books, learned to corn roll, and combed a five year old black girls hair so they think they know. THEY HAVE NO IDEA!!! They have no clue what it means to walk thru this country and have your attributes continually and not always subtlely put down. They have no idea what it means to have black hair. I mean it's oh so cute to braid and all that, but what about when that girl is 13 and her haird doesn't do what the white girls in class can do? They don't know that braids that are cute at 4 are just some baby mess at 12. They have no idea what it takes to figure out what to do with the hair once it's out of braids and everything you try doesn't look right.

They have no idea that it took hundreds of years for us to learn what works for our hair and how to find value in our own beauty when society at large tells you that you and your hair are ugly. They don't know about the sistas in the test kitchens mastering the conk and sacrificing plugs of hair. They don't know that as a teenager there will be kids who think it's the nastiest thing they have ever heard when you tell them you wash your hair once a week. They have never seen products that you have relied on and loved fail you, and then you can't find replacements. They don't know that the hair that has been on top of your head your whole like can change and you have to fight to get it back. They don't know that this happens for natural and relaxed sistas.

Or maye this is my own ignorance? Do white women have such extensive hair issues? Do they struggle like me and I don't know it? They talk about washing their own hair (which is something I haven't done in years) and I think wow I wish my hair was that easy to manage. But maybe they have a different set of hair stuff going on that I don't know about. Are htey like me and have to wear a scarf every night? Do they talk with their friends about when you let a new man see you in your scarf?

But more than all of that,they don't know that hair is something that black women discuss. They are being offered an entry into that world becuase a sista sees a baby sista and talks to her mom about her hair. They don't know that we do that all the time with each other. I have approached and been approached about who does my hair. I have seen a sista at the mall with a style and shine that I want to rock and I've asked what she uses. I have had others offer suggestions when they saw my hair line receding or my ends all split off. We have walked this path and discuss it freely. Of course everyone has an opinion that you may not agree with, but that's life. You can take it or leave it. My own hair dresser lectures me about going natural and I ignore her once a week as she talks and blow drys my relaxed hair.

My goddaughter and her mom were in the store and a black woman came up to them and suggested a shining product to her for baby. My friend, who is black, just chatted for a minute and went on about her business. No one thought anything of it. Our hair has ups and downs and we look to each other for assistance. Some we take and some we ignore.

Like the majority of women I know, i have had a standing appt at the hair dresser every week since i got my first job. Yes, it's that serious. I know sistas who won't pay a bill before they cancel that hair appt. India Arie had ot make a song saying she released being defined by her hair. She didn't do so because it was a catchy tune, she did it because hair is a big deal for black women.

So the next time you dismiss that "well meaning AA" when she talks to you about your child's hair you may want to reconsider. Doing a few braids ain't nothing like wearing the mane day in and day out. Don't get it twisted.

Okay that's my rant. I'm such an even tempered person, but that mess was a little too much for me today.

Maybe I'll have more perspective tomorrow. Maybe I'm just being hyper sensitive tonight.

What do you think blog world? Am I upset for nothing? Is "well meaning AA" woman respectful or wack?

Thursday, December 4, 2008

Back from Hiatus

Hi All,

Well, we had quite a little scare last month, but I think I feel confident enough to hope that Eden/Aden will be coming home in 2009. I don't have the energy to discuss, but there seem to be changes in the future for ET and single adoptions. At this point, it's not confirmed what they will be, but last month I thought they meant that I would not have ET as an option. My agency has assured me that is not the case and I have decided to have a little faith. The head of the agency has been in ET for this past week and has only sent back good news thus far.

I still have no homestudy. Trying to hurry that process along. A fellow blogger, Robbin, has passed on a contact that may help me move my homestudy out of DCFS faster than I had originally thought. Thanks Girl!!

I have slowed down big time on shopping for Aden. The idea of never using her nursery was heart wrenching.

Not much going on with me outside of that. Will be sure to update as soon as I get more info about the homestudy. I would love to be officially waiting by the end of the year.

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Hiatus for a Bit

Hi All,

There seems to be some potentially disturbing news regarding my ability to adopt in Ethiopia. At this point, I'm waiting for my agency rep to speak with MOWA to confirm some very disturbing news that is coming out of Ethiopia. If this news is in fact true, I am not sure if/how I will be proceeding with my adoption from Ethiopia.

It was fun to enter the world of blogging, and I wish everyone well on their journey. A part of me is hopeful that this somehow resolves itself, but I'm not anticipating that happening.

Signing off for now....trice

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Christening Gown

Hi All,

Nothing new to report. Still in the paperchase. Hoping that all my docs will be approved and off to Springfield by the 20th. I can't believe IL has that stupid rule about approval from DCFS before it can be sent to my agency. What can you do?

I have my fingerprint appt with customs this afternoon. I almost forgto about it. Lucky I dind't have any appts scheduled at work.

I went shopping with my GF Kourtney yesterday. I was supposed to look for winter accesories but ended up buying Eden a Christening gown. I love her gown. I went to the site for the manufacturer and her dress was $300 less than what buying direct cost. I LOVE MARSHALLS!!!! Kourtney hates discount stores but she was a good sport. I just can't understand how someone could hate the thrill of the hunt and the rush of the capture when you find that hidden gem.

Isn't the dress too cute?

Friday, November 7, 2008

Home Study Visit

Hi All,

I had my homestudy visit on election day. Visit went fine. She spent about 4 minutes looking around the house. Really not that big of a deal.

Later that evening I hung out with my family and watched history. I never in my lifetime thought a black man would be president. It's overwhelming. Black women have become caricatures on TV and it's just so great to have a first lady who is a black woman. I can barely watch TV with a black female character. They are all either fat, lazy and loud or the biggest bitches you have ever met. I'm like do you really think that a whole group of women can be put into two stereotypical and unfair character types?

Oh well, here's hoping that the homestudy is complete by mid December.

Monday, November 3, 2008

Table 52

Well, the boy and I went there to celebrate my Bday. There's a lot of hype because it's an Oprah thing, but I wasn't all that impressed. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed the meal, but don't get why there is a three month wait.

I have to go to fed court on Wednesday!!! Not looking forward to that, I always forget something or say something wrong when I'm there. It's just so intimidating that I feel like a law student when I'm there. Hope it goes better this time around.

Homestudy visit tomorrow, will be sure to update....

Monday, October 27, 2008

My Bday is This Week

Celebrating my bday this week. I found this pic from my bday about five years ago when I was still hanging at clubs and thinking me and my girls were too cute. Now I can't even stay awake pass two a.m.

Friday, October 24, 2008

In Public in Addis

Someone posted this today about not going in public with your adopted child. I'm sure it's very upsetting for some of the people who live there, and understand that it has to be limited. My friend went to China and she thought it was alarming to see so many Caucasian couples walking around with Chinesse children. She thought it was really sad that China wasn't doing more to take care of its own. I could see the ppl of Ethiopia feeling the same way and souring towards adoption.

October 22, 2008
Joint Council Policy Recommendation
Cultural Sensitivity Regarding Adoptions in Ethiopia

Every adoption is like a rollercoaster for the adoptive parents. There are always obstacles to overcome and hoops to jump through. But in every adoption there are also many highs. For most adoptive parents the biggest high is finally being able to travel, meet the child whose photo you fell in love with long ago, and holding them in your arms. It is the moment that every adoptive parent longs for and dreams of. Adoptive parents want to spend every moment with their new child, learning every little piece of their personality and spirit. Adoptive parents want to show their new child(ren) everything that the world has to offer them. This being said sometimes it is necessary for an adoptive family to be respectful of a country’s local culture and hold off these magical moments for a few days. Joint Council feels that this is the case in Ethiopia.Very often adoptive families stay at an international, national or local hotel in Addis Ababa. And fulfilling their long held desires, families often bring their newly adopted child to the hotel during their stay in Ethiopia.. Many times the adoptive family also goes shopping or sightseeing in Addis Ababa or another local city or village.This overriding desire, which is very normal and certainly understandable, often results in unintended cultural insensitivity to the Ethiopian government and citizens. With over 3,000 adoptions expected in Ethiopia this year, hotels and other common gathering places such as shopping areas often see relatively large numbers of families with their newly adopted Ethiopian child.Given that the vast majority of American and European families adopting from Ethiopia are Caucasian or other non-black, the adoptive families and their Ethiopian child are easily distinguished and are often a point of curiosity among Ethiopian citizens. Understandably, due to misconceptions about adoption some Ethiopian citizens even look upon American and European adoptive families with suspicion. Cultural differences in parenting and child behavior are contributing to this suspicion.The large number of adoptive families combined with the curiosity and suspicions of Ethiopian citizens and with cultural differences in parenting and child behavior, is unfortunately causing unintended yet very significant concerns among some Ethiopian citizens and the government. Subsequently these unintended consequences are weakening the work and services being provided in order to ensure permanent families for the children of Ethiopia. Without exaggeration, this may lead to the elimination of intercountry adoption as an option for ensuring that every Ethiopian child has a safe, permanent and loving family.During Joint Council’s trips to Ethiopia in June and July, concerns regarding the large numbers of adoptive families, including the Ethiopian child, staying at hotels and traveling throughout the city were expressed repeatedly by the Ethiopian government. Significant numbers of Ethiopian citizens have contacted the government with questions and more significantly with complaints.During a Joint Council presentation to adoption service providers from the United States, Italy and France, Joint Council addressed the very important issue of cultural sensitivities. All adoption service providers were strongly urged to refrain from utilizing hotels and restricting in-city travel for adoptive families. Supporting Joint Council’s recommendation was the Network (a large association of adoption service providers in Ethiopia).Most adoption service providers that recognized the issue of cultural sensitivity are following the recommendation. In fact some have instituted cultural sensitivity policies regarding lodging and in-city travel prior to the Joint Council recommendation. For example, increasing numbers of adoption service providers have established private guesthouses for adoptive families. Unfortunately not all adoption service providers have chosen to be proactive and implement cultural sensitivity policies. Just as unfortunately, many adoptive parents are insisting on staying at hotels and going shopping in Addis Ababa despite repeated requests from their adoption service provider, reputable advocates such as the Network and the Ethiopian government.It is essential that adoptive parents and adoption service providers demonstrate respect for the country in which they are respectively adopting and working. Without demonstrating respect for the country and its people, the adoptive family is in turn disregarding the culture of their child(ren). Similarly the adoption service provider is disrespecting the children they seek to serve.It is for these reasons and more that we urge adoption service providers to encourage adoptive parent to please refrain from staying in hotels and venturing out in public with their newly adoptive children. With respectful deference to cultural sensitivities in Ethiopia, to the Government of Ethiopia, and to the people of Ethiopia, Joint Council strongly urges all adoption service providers to immediately implement policies which incorporate the following principles. Adoptive parents are similarly requested to respect their child(ren), their birth country and culture and abide by the following principles and the policies of their adoption service provider.Cultural Sensitivity Principles and GuidelinesPrinciples1. All due care must be given to demonstrate cultural sensitivities towards the country, people and government of Ethiopia2. Full recognition of the questions, concerns, curiosities and suspicions must be given to the Government of Ethiopia and its citizens3. It is recognized that adopting an Ethiopian child is a ‘privilege of giving’ bestowed by the citizens and government of Ethiopia4. It is recognized that every Ethiopian child has a right to a family - every family does not have an inherent right to an Ethiopian child5. Actions and behaviors which may not appear to be offensive to U.S. adoptive parents, may in fact be extremely offensive to Ethiopian society6. Actions and behaviors seen as culturally insensitive damage the institution of intercountry adoption and thereby limit opportunities for children in need to find a family7. Actions and behaviors seen as culturally insensitive significantly contribute to the possible elimination of intercountry adoption in Ethiopia and thereby eliminate the right of every Ethiopian child to a safe, permanent and loving familyGuidelines1. Adoption service providers will incorporate these principles and guidelines into their contractual or policy relationships with potential adoptive families2. Adoption service providers will disclose the contractual or policy limitations related to cultural sensitivities to all prospective adoptive parents prior to approving an application from the prospective adoptive parents3. Prior to taking custody of their adopted Ethiopian child, adoptive families may reside in a hotel during their staya. It is recommended that adoptive families utilize Ethiopian Guest Houses or a lodging facility operated by an adoption service provider during their entire stay in Ethiopiab. Adoptive families who have not taken full custody of their adopted Ethiopian child may choose to utilize a hoteli. In such cases the adoptive parents may visit their adopted Ethiopian child daily at the child care center4. Upon taking custody of their adopted Ethiopian child, adoptive families will utilize Ethiopian Guest Houses or a lodging facility operated by an adoption service provider5. Adoptive families will refrain from in-country travel with their adopted Ethiopian childa. Exceptions to this guideline (#5) are limited toi. The visa appointment at the U.S. Embassyii. Other adoption related eventsiii. An emergency situation6. Adoptive families will refrain from pressuring their adoption service provider or in-country staff to violate these principles, guidelines and/or agency polices representing these principles and guidelines

Wednesday, October 22, 2008

I'm in the News!!!

Well my trial is at least!!!! It's so cool to have a news article to show off!!! I'm a govt attorney so they can't print my name without permission from DC, but it's still cool to know it was me who tried the case.....

Here's the article...

NLRB orders nurses rehired at Oak Lawn nursing home

October 17, 2008
BY MIKE NOLAN Staff writer
The owner of an Oak Lawn nursing home has been ordered to rehire three nurses fired earlier this year after they backed a union's efforts to organize employees at the facility.
A National Labor Relations Board administrative law judge also ordered Regal Health and Rehabilitation Center to begin contract negotiations with the Service Employees International Union.
Michael Lerner, president of GEM Healthcare, which operates Regal, said Thursday he would appeal the NLRB decision, which was released earlier this week.
The judge agreed with the union's assertions that Regal supervisors interrogated employees about union activities, threatened to blackball workers who engaged in union activities and unfairly fired three nurses because they supported the union's organizing efforts. Some employees were promised rewards if they spied on pro-union workers, according to the judge's decision.
The judge ordered that a notice spelling out key points of the ruling be posted inside the nursing home at 9525 S. Mayfield.
Lerner denied that workers were dismissed because of organizing activities.
"Absolutely not," he said.
At hearings earlier this year in Chicago on the union's charges, one nurse who was ultimately fired said her supervisor threatened her with termination if she joined SEIU. The supervisor told her that Lerner "would not tolerate the union and that anyone involved in the union would be terminated," according to the judge's decision.
The employees were fired in January and March, and the NLRB judge ordered Regal to reimburse them for any loss of earnings "suffered as a result of the discriminatory discharges

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Statement of Reasons to Adopt

I completed mine. I thought it would be hard to write, but I finished and then had to shorten it to keep it on one page. Not sure if the agency will have edits, but I think it turned out well.

Today there was a bit of bickering on my adoption board. I backed out of it very quickly. I have to get over the feeling that because I'm single I should just be grateful that they accepted me. I don't want to rock the boat and have them say no because of it.

Don't get me wrong, my agency is great and have never done anything to make me feel this way, I just think all of those "no singles" i got from the domestic folks has made me overly appreciative of someone who said "yes". If that makes sense at all?

Monday, October 20, 2008


Okay, I told myself I wouldn't do this, but I just couldn't resist. I purchased this mobile for Eden. It's so cute with her butterfly theme. I have to get things under control with the shopping. I set a budget, and I think I will stay under it, but it's so hard to keep track. These things just keep being delivered from Ebay and sometimes I don't even know how they got to my house :).

Friday, October 17, 2008


I just found out that I won a huge trial. The judge's decision was 71 pages, so that gives you some idea of how big a case this was. It lasted 6 days!!!!

The case involved a group of nurses who were fired for trying to start a union. They were all very excited to learn that they will soon return to work.

As for Eden, nothing new to report. I'm just in the paperchas and hoping that things go smoothly.

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Revised Birth Certificate

The revised certificate finally arrived!!!!! Very happy that I can send in the i600 application tomorrow. Things are finally moving along. I still have at least two months before homestuday approval, but at least there is finally some movement.

2nd Home Study

The visit went well. She took a little background info and we discussed the expected completion date. It's looking like late December. The actual home visit will be on November 4th.

I finally ordered something from mamabargains, thanks for the heads up tami!!! I ordered a Jessica Messenger bag and saved about one hundred bucks. I really love a good deal. I have to relax on the spending though, the visa bill was not pretty this month.

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Black Catholics

Last night I went to a small dinner for young black catholics and it was really nice. I met a woman who is doing a fellowship in pediatric infectious diseases. She and I ended up talking for about two hours. She volunteered to review Eden's medical report. I'm going to pay someone to look over the docs, but it's nice to have a second opinion as well. Apparently, there are only about one hundred docs who are in her specialty.

She and I got into a long discussion about innoculations and autism. I'm nervous about innocs but I also believe that we are responsible for oursleves and each other. I would never forego innoculations but I will do a revised schedule that does not combine the MMR. The new doc friend was telling me horror stories that she runs across from those who don't innoculate. Anyway, it was nice to pick the brain of an expert for two hours.

I have my second homestudy visit on Tuesday and I still do not have the birth certificate. I will call again on Monday, this is so frustrating.

Monday, October 6, 2008

One more

here's the other side of her nursery...i live in an old chicago house so the rooms aren't that big...

my baby pic

here's my baby pic that i'm posting according to robbin's tag request...i just snapped them with the camera so they're not great.....i think i was around 6 months but not really sure...i sort of look the same...

nursery pic

Here's the first one. Tons more to do, but you get the basic idea....

Update and Tag


Looks like I have all my ducks in a row. Signed up for my adoption training. Have my next homestudy appt scheduled. My social worker is Tara withLuther Child and Family Services. She's a total sweetie and very organized. I'm really happy with the work she has done on my file. Only two more sessions and the homestudy should be complete. Tara says that Illinois has a crazy rule that all homestudies must be approved by Springfield before approval. That adds an additional month to the timeline before I'm on the waitlist. UUUHHHHHH!!!!

Eden's room is just too cute. I put her bedding on the crib, couldn't help myself. Will have to post pics soon.

I was tagged by Robbin, so here goes......

Okay so of course I get to "pay it forward" and tag me some other folks, here are the rules
1. Link to the person that tagged you.
2. Post the rules on the blog.
3. Write six random facts about yourself.
4. Tag six people at the end of your post
5. Let each person know they have been tagged.
6. Let the taggers know when your entry is up.
So I tag the following people

1. I eat cookies/dessert EVERY night.
2. My favorite color is blue but I don't own many blue clothes.
3. I'm an only child.
4. I have about 3 best friends.
5. I've been trying to grow my hair back, but it's taking forever.
6. My favorite hobby is reading.

Okay, I'm not much of blogger so I don't have anyone to tag, but I did enjoy playing. Will get a baby pic up as well

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Kourtney sent me the following info for an organization that unites ET-A kids in the chicagoland area, and supports adopted families in maintaining their kids' cultural heritage. If things work out, I will for sure become a member and hope that this is an organization that Eden and I can be a part of. Here is the link and some information about them......

Thanks Kourtney!!!

Selam! The Ethio-American Kids Community, a tax-exempt 501(c)(3) organization, exists to develop and support opportunities for cultural and educational exchanges and social networking between Americans, Ethiopians and Ethio-Americans. We provide support for pre- and post-adoptive American families of Ethiopian children. We offer volunteer and service opportunities that impact our Ethio-American community and Ethiopia directly. We strive to keep the Ethiopian culture and the Ethio-American community vibrant and welcoming to all by sponsoring an annual summer culture camp and year-round holiday and cultural gatherings and social networking.We always enjoy meeting new families! Feel free to contact us for more information about our activities, organization, and Ethiopian adoption.

Doc Appt

I went to the doctor last night for my homestudy physical. The doctor filled out the form very quickly. I'm hoping he got everything on there that they wanted. He's a sweetheart. He actually is considering adopting a child from a 3rd world country. He wants me to bring Eden by when she comes home.

I have my appt with the SW in two days. Will be glad to get that process started. I still haven't been able to move on my i600 form. No way of knowing when my updated birth certificate will arrive.

I LOVE THE ROOM COLOR!!!!! I can't wait until everything is set up so that I can post a pic.

On sunday, I went to BRU with my friend Kourtney and I picked up her crib and changing table. I will start to work on putting that stuff together this weekend. I just need that birth certificate to make its way here........

Friday, September 26, 2008

Barbie Doll - AKA

I'm a member of the best and oldest sorority for AA women!!!! The fantastic ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha were honored with the first ever sorority Barbie to celebrate our 100 year anniversary!!! I ordered Eden's Barbie today. The doll is constantly on back order. And Mattell thought that she might not sell!!! Find out what we care about and you'll see that you can't make enough of them.....


A Real Sorority Doll Who's Pretty in Pink -- and GreenAlpha Kappa Alpha's newest pledge is Barbie, wearing a gown in the sorority's colors of pink and green. The doll was unveiled at the group's centennial. (Courtesy Of Mattel) Yesterday, thousands of members of Alpha Kappa Alpha, the country's oldest black sorority, attended a public meeting that ended with the unveiling of the AKA Centennial Barbie doll. The sorority was founded at Howard University. "She's absolutely beautiful," said Jenea Stewart, 30, an AKA member from St. Louis. "It's something that can be passed down through the generations, from mother to daughter." Barbie has taken on many manifestations over the years, but this is the first time there is a Barbie to honor a sorority. Although the doll is a fun way to commemorate AKA's centennial, it also has a serious undertone, said Barbara A. McKinzie, the sorority's international president. She recalled that in the 1940s, psychologists used identically dressed black and white dolls to test black children's race perceptions and preferences. The majority of them preferred the white doll, saying it was better. The study was cited in the landmark Brown v. Board of Education desegregation decision of 1954. McKinzie said that, even today, some black children suffer from inferiority complexes. "What a wonderful idea to take a known icon in our society and have the doll look like us," McKinzie said. "It's a way of educating the issue." For AKA members, the timing could not be better. "Barbie has been through so many different stages of history," said Deidra Powell, a member from Sacramento. "It's so appropriate to pick Barbie at this time in our history." One sorority sister, though, has a wish for the future. "It would be nice to have a full-figured Barbie," said Nichole Lyles, 29, of St. Louis. "But she's coming soon, I'm sure. Before a hundred years are up." The doll, which will sell for $50, will be available soon at »

Bed Set and Chair

Here's the bedding and chair that I got for Eden's room. The chair has a pink slipcover. I got it from walmart, so much cheaper than other places, and put it together last night. I usually don't like put together furniture, but this one turned out to be very nice. I have 20% coupons from BRU for this weekend. After that, I will wrap up my major item purchases. So happy that I will have all of those expenses out of the way. I wil have a shower for clothes and cute extras, because I don't buy that kind of stuff. My BF says that will all change when I have a pic and know her size. I'm finally starting to not feel so overwhelmed. When I was told my travel date would probably be in March, I was in a panic, but now that i have the basics sqaured away things are leveling off.

Thursday, September 25, 2008


My application finally arrived at BFAS. I can't believe it took over a week. I have learned my lesson, no more regular mail for me.

On another note, the man I'm having paint has become a bit of a stalker. He finds an excuse to stop by every day. He's a nice guy, but why can't a single woman hire a man to complete a project without him thinking you were just a desperate spinster waiting for him to save you? It's really annoying because I thought he was such a cool guy to hire for projects around the house. Not worth it, if I have to deal with a non-stop pest.

I won my car seat on ebay. Got it for $220 and I think it's adorable.

Car Seat

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Eden's Chandelier

I'm having it hung tonight. I just love it!!! Think it will be too cute with her Tiffany walls. I know, it's very girlie, but what can you do?

Reading Material

Currently reading "There Is No Me Without You" by Melissa Fay Greene. The book is very well written, and tells the story of a woman's attempt to save orphaned children in Ethiopia. I'm also reading a few infant care books. I had been reading so much about the history of ET that it struck me one day that I probably need to make sure I know all of the current child rearing methods.

I'm an only child, but I have a large family and have been taking care of babies forever. However, my family is a little old school, so I want to compare what I've learned from them with all of the "new fanlged" things that are out there. I'm not someoen who believes all that our elders did was wrong, so I plan on raising my little one with a combinaiton of wisdom from my elders and knowledge from my own generation.

As for fun stuff, I'm in the process of having Eden's room painted and her light fixture hung. Should have that accomplished by Saturday and will be sure to post a pic. I'm painting her walls Tiffany Blue. I hope it turns out well.

Paper Chase

Right now I'm waiting for a corrected birth certificate before I can file my I600 forms. Long story short, my mom had me at 15 and her mom filed out the birth certificate. Somehow, my grandma wanted to make my mom believe that she had given me her name instead of the name my mother had chosen. My grandma forgot that she was just waiting for my mom's reaction and never actually put any name on the birth certificate. None of this would have mattered except those nit picky customs officials require a NAME on official govt records. :) My grandma passed away when I was 14, but she was a bit of a pistol. I sent off for an expedited record and hope to have it next week.

I sent my app to BFAS on the 15th and they say they haven't gotten it as of yet. Very nervous about that. Going to give it one more day and then I'll resend the documents certified. I'm a bit of a miser and that gets me in trouble all the time. I should have sent them certified in the first place. Well, hindsight is 20/20.

First Attempt At Blogging


I never in the world thought I would blog. NEVER!!! But this whole adoption process is driving me crazy and I need to let it out.

I have been reading blogs and have been so inspired by the journey of others that I thought I would give this a shot.

I am currently in the process of adopting a little girl from Ethiopia. Her name will be Eden (the land where life began/Ethiopia) and Carol for my mom who passed away in a car accident five years ago.

So far I'm starting my paper chase. First home study interview on Oct. 2nd. Application sent to Better Future Adoption Services (thanks Robbin for the recommendation).